Resilience—riding the storms of life

Resilience—riding the storms of life

November 06, 2020

Kae Tritle, RN—Wellness Coordinator
 
Life’s storms are still with us and all around us. We are still recovering from natural disasters: hurricanes, wildfires, floods, and the derecho. We are still coping with the implications of COVID-19—continued social distancing, use of technology for virtual school, work meetings, worship, and maintenance of family/friend contacts, health precautions, employment issues, and financial impacts. We are so weary of all of the changes, precautions, and how to do more with less.  I would like to lift up the following scripture and qualities:

Rejoice in hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer.”  Romans 1:12a NRS

Hope   Patience   Perseverance   Endurance   Resilience
The above qualities can help each of us cope with our current circumstances.
  • Hope: a confident expectation that things will get better, others will help us, and that opportunities will become available. 
  • Patience: the ability for active waiting; of preparing for what is coming.
  • Perseverance: determination to do what is necessary to come through this.
  • Endurance: the ability to stay the course and to last through the difficulties.
  • Resilience: strength in the midst of change and the ability to recover from adversity.
 Resilience is a quality that many of us may be unfamiliar with.   Traits of resilience include:
  • the capacity to make and carry out realistic plans
  • a positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities
  • effective communication and problem-solving skills
  • the capacity to manage strong emotions and impulses 
Here are some strategies to strengthen your resilience skills from the American Psychological Association’s publication The Road to Resilience.
  • Maintain relationships with close, caring persons: Resilience is strengthened by accepting help from those who care about you and who will listen to you.
  • Recognize that change is a part of life. Focus on those things that you can change and learn to accept those circumstances that can’t be changed.
  • Keep things in perspective and avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. Take a long-term view, looking beyond the current situation to the future.
  • Take decisive actions to move towards your goals. Look for one small thing that you can accomplish instead of focusing on what isn’t achievable. 
  • Maintain a hopeful outlook. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about those things you fear will happen.
  • Be aware of opportunities for self-discovery. Often people have learned something about themselves and have grown as the result of their adversity. This may include improved relationships, a greater sense of personal strength and self-worth, a heightened appreciation for life, or increased spiritual awareness. 
  • Take care of yourself and nurture a positive viewpoint. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings, doing those things that nurture you physically and emotionally. Develop a sense of confidence that you can get through this. 
  • Tap into God’s infinite strength and power.  We have limited resources and abilities. Let God’s power work within the situation to change your perspective.
 
“I can do all things in him who strengthens me.” (Phil 4:13 RSV)
I invite you to become aware of and increase your resilience skills so that you are more able to cope with your current difficulties.